“When the dog bites, when the bee stings, when I’m feeling sad, I simply remember my favorite things and then I don’t feel so bad …” goes the old Christmas song “My Favorite Things.”
Oh, if only it was that easy …
The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time of year, full of parties, celebrations and time with family and friends. The New Year comes full of promise, happiness, love and fulfillment. Every television show, song, commercial and store tell us we are supposed to be joyful during the holidays. But, for many, it’s a hard time of year. It’s like being on the outside of a snow globe looking in at everyone else having a great time and not being able to reach them.
The most wonderful time of the year can be the most difficult time of the year. It could be the first Christmas or New Year that you celebrate after a major loss. Instead of being joyful, you feel lost, confused, discouraged and lonely. The last thing you feel like doing is celebrating.
For others, the holidays feel like being trapped under the weight of Santa’s sleigh on Christmas Eve – financially overextended, crushed under the pressure to provide.
For some, the holidays are stressful because of health issues. Maybe you’re the sole provider for an ill family member, possibly you’re a single parent, or the “responsible” one in the family. You feel exhausted. You never have time to rest or take care of yourself because you are always taking care of everyone else. For you, the holidays are just one more thing to do on your already jam-packed to-do list.
Perhaps you have been so busy overdoing it that you feel run down, physically, emotionally and financially. You need to spend time exercising, resting or relaxing, but you are so busy you feel like you are running on fumes.
How many times have you said to yourself …
This year, I am going to take better care of myself. I am going to get some help to deal with my own problems?
… But before you know it, another year has passed and here you are again, facing the same old stuff.
Don’t let another year pass while struggling alone.
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Steve Smith has been an ordained minister for more than 20 years and has provided sound counsel to individuals, couples and families throughout his various ministerial roles, such as Minister of Counseling and Family Support for one of the largest churches in Texas and in his professional role as HOPEworks’ Executive Director and Minister of Counseling.